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The Big O: Understanding Mind-blowing O's.

What is an orgasm? How does it affect your biological chemistry? We're going to cover how to get on the o train and come out with new techniques. Before we can get to the techniques and the fun, we must understand a few key concepts. Brain chemistry, what happens during the orgasm, male versus female, the orgasm model, and communicating your needs. These are all things you need to understand in order to up your o game.

Please note that the use of male and female in this article does not refer to sexual orientation or sexual identity. Female refers solely to people who have a vagina and a uterus. Male refers to people who have a penis and testicles. Also, note too that brain chemistry may still relate to the natural body parts you were born with and is not a reflection of your outward identity for the sole purpose of understanding orgasms.

Let's start with brain chemistry. An orgasm is described as a feeling of intense pleasure that happens during sexual activity. We must also understand that everybody will experience an orgasm in different ways.

There is a highly debated topic among scientists that says the logical part of your brain shuts down during climax. Psychologists believe that the logical part of your brain shuts down because the climax decreases fear and anxiety. However, not all experts agree with studies as recent as 2017 that suggest otherwise. Recent results show that these areas of the brain are in fact active.

Parts of the brain associated with memories, touch, and movement also light up during orgasm. The thalamus helps integrate information about touch, movement, and sexual memories and, fantasies. This could explain how you retain sexual memories and fantasies or why your imagination is able to be more active during sexual arousal and peak.

Oxytocin builds up and is released as well. What is oxytocin? Oxytocin is defined as the bonding hormone. The fact that your brain produces oxytocin during sex and is released plays a key role in many important functions including the release of other hormones. Regulation of body temperature, controlling appetite, and of course, the management of sexual behaviors.

Another great chemical released is called dopamine. During orgasm, your brain is working hard to produce all kinds of hormones. It's like a cocktail for your brain. Dopamine is released at the moment of orgasm. Dopamine is responsible for feelings of pleasure and desire, so it acts as a motivation to keep experiencing those feelings of pleasure and desire during release. Dopamine is also the brain chemical that helps you in feeling satisfied.

There is a chemical cocktail that happens in your brain during sex you endorphins, oxytocin, and vasopressin so that you are less sensitive to pain during sex.

However, for many pain goes hand in hand. Many people enjoy a little bit of pain during sex and it's actually the pituitary gland that helps free up room in the brain for these endorphins that are able to promote pain reduction. A very interesting side note to the pain suppressor is that the same areas of the brain that are active during sex are also active when you experience pain.

In people that can't feel genital stimulation the same way as most, the brain may actually be able to re-create a pathway to do so. People who have suffered lower-body paralysis or injury can still have orgasms through stimulation of other body parts. Many people can experience orgasms through the nipples or other sensitive areas of the body.

Science is starting to believe that having orgasms can help keep your brain healthy because there is a significant increase in blood flow across multiple areas of the brain. The blood flow increases dramatically when we achieve orgasm. It is entirely likely that orgasms may have been developed in our bodies to help keep our brains healthy.

You may have heard of something called the orgasm model, what does that mean? The term model, in this case, is referring to a way to scientifically label the stages of orgasm. The first stage is excitement and excitement can happen for multiple types of stimuli. They can include visual, physical, and psychological stimulation combined. There is a part of your nervous system that for ease of reading, we will call the relaxed portion, and it's part of the autonomic, or involuntary nervous system. This part of the nervous system is responsible for heart rate, breathing muscle tension even helping us blush.

In people with a penis, you will experience different, your member will become erect you release slightly different chemicals within the brain to allow you to perform. You feel an increased blood flow to sensitive areas, so your sense of touch is heightened. You also experience slight discharge from the tip of your penis to help in lubrication.

In people with a vagina, you'll experience the release of vastly different hormones as females produce more of the bonding hormone oxytocin. Various erogenous zones will swell a little as blood travels down there and you will also experience discharge within the vagina to allow for lubrication.

While the excitement phase is the warmup the next is a plateau. Now the plateau sounds boring but really, it's not it's the stage where the excitement is maintained the clitoris will become highly sensitive and react the vaginal walls will start to pulse and in males, the testicles will be drawn up slightly to allow for the next stage. This plateau leads to excitement, right before the explosion of an orgasm.

The next stage is the orgasm. The orgasm in many parts is considered the peak or the result of sex. It is the primary motivation for sexual interaction. Typically, an orgasm will only last a few seconds, so this is by far the shortest of all the stages. In persons with a penis, the contractions of the prostate and the seminal glands produce secretions that will enter the urethra and mix with sperm to create semen. Ejaculation occurs as all the muscles of the penis spasm. In persons with a vagina, the muscles of the vagina you and uterus produce powerful rhythmic contractions. These contractions in females are the source of pleasure during the orgasm. They can release muscle tension that has been built up during the excitement and plateau phases.

The resolution. The last phase of the orgasm. What really happens? Your heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing all return to normal while many individuals experience a relaxed feeling during this or fatigue. While many males will not be able to achieve sexual excitement or orgasm soon after females are able to. females in the brain produce oxytocin and dopamine both are chemicals used to bond. As such, the resolution is the cuddling phase or the bonding phase for females and is likely why one-night stands affect female brains so negatively.

There is something we do within kink that is called edging. It is the key to playing with the orgasm model to achieve an edged orgasm. If you use the excitement phase and draw it out. You can then use short bursts of the plateau phase to heighten the pleasure your partner feels. Bouncing between excitement and plateau for longer periods before allowing the orgasm will create a successful edge experience or a successfully ruined orgasm [an orgasm that producers ejaculate without the pleasure release of a full orgasm].

In understanding and controlling the orgasm model, you are then able to control the ending or outcome of your orgasm or your partners. It is highly important that we use communication skills to build on this experience. Likewise, it is highly recommended that you understand that communication may not always be words. Communication can be sounds, body reactions, or verbal cues like moans. Communicating through the whole process of sexual activity and orgasm will allow you the pleasure you are looking to give and receive.

Remember always when looking at understanding and playing with orgasms, you are working with the brain and the body as one. You will produce chemical reactions in the body to create the experience. This could be relative to experiencing an orgasm on your own or with a partner. The brain's

control over the human body is remarkable in the fact that it has adapted to allow orgasm to create relief within your own body is amazing. Some little-known facts about orgasms.

• orgasms can relieve stress

• they can relieve depression

• they can bond us to another person

• orgasms can relieve sinus congestion and lessen allergies

• they can relieve a headache and muscle tension

• they have the potential to create a healthier brain

• they have the potential to lessen the risks of some forms of cancers

The fact that orgasms are around and fill more than reproduction means we have a lot to learn about human sexuality. How we choose to look at sex is fundamental to who we are it is so important to value who you are and who you choose to be when it comes to sex. Enhancements to the orgasm can be made by increasing your intimacy outside the bedroom. Orgasms can also be enhanced via role play. But I highly suggest you look at EEP’s, erotic empowered personas. This form of role-playing allows your brain to naturally process a fantasy.

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