Femdom. Is it just a female that dominates men? The answer may surprise you. To understand Femdom we need to define it. Let’s rule out, female domination. That is just what it is, a female dominating another human being in a BDSM context.
Understanding Femdom, means we have to take a look at society. We at present are still not an egalitarian society. The last true vestiges of egalitarianism died with the Celtic society. For a brief time in our history one group of people mastered true equality. Our world today, is still a male dominated place. Yes ladies are trickling into the roles of men, but the scales are still tipped in their favour.
So Femdom becomes a what if….
What IF all our history was opposite and ladies were in all the male roles and the males become or take on the female roles. How truly wonderful this fetish becomes.
The home makers
The childcare providers
The meal makers
The sex symbols
Sounds good right? So how do you achieve this? Understanding how men get turned on is how you put them in the role of being subservient to you. Men have a sex drive that operated in two parts. One they are very visual people. Two control their penis and you control them. Men think with their penis, often it gets them into trouble, a Femdom will make it hers.
If you keep him horny you win.
A man in a Femdom relationship is more attentive to your needs when he wants to cum.
You need to maintain that dynamic to keep him interested.
There are two types of play that are common in a Femdom relationship.
Control of his penis:
Find out what works for both of you. We live in reality and the world is still male defined. Our fantasies can take us anywhere and how we choose to life behind closed doors should be what completes us.
I highly recommend these resources for more information.
The Mistress Manual by Mistress Lorelei